Choosing joy, when all you really want to do is throw a pity-party.


Let me start this off real quick by letting you know, THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT YOU. If you read this and you find yourself thinking, “Wow, Andrea is talking about me.” Get over yourself, because I am not.

Good. We have cleared that up.

A lot of exciting things are happening to the people close to me. Some are getting married and having babies. Friends are landing an ideal job, and some are taking dream vacations. Now, when these friends share with me their news, I am genuinely thrilled for them. 100%. Honest. I mean, I have been praying for most of these friends that they would get pregnant or land that job. I am their champion. So, I say all of this to say:

How can I have joy in my heart, but also sadness?

Not sadness that good things are happening to people I love. More like sadness that I have already hit some of those milestones in my life. That they are behind me.


There are great things ahead for me in my life. I know this. I am excited about this. I know that God has called me to love and encourage others. To cheer others on. So, when feelings of sadness start to creep in, what I really want to do is yell. “LEAVE ME ALONE, SATAN. I AM TRYING TO LOVE PEOPLE LIKE JESUS LOVES PEOPLE.” (Has this ever worked? Please get back to me on this.)

Oh, dear blog reader, can you just be in my head? All of this makes sense in my head. I guess my main point here is: to fight for joy. Choose joy. I love my dear friends and the exciting things that are going on in their lives.

I am reading a book right now that is just so great. Lysa TerKeurst writes:

I started to ask Him to bless others and prayed this verse of abundance over them.

“And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work” (2 Corinthians 9:8).

I ask Him to help others succeed.

“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4)

When she does well, we all do well. All tides rise when we see a sister making this world a better place with her gifts. When I started believing this, my scarcity thinking started turning into abundance.

Ugh…guys…see? Her words are just so good.

Okay, I have got to choose joy, because nobody RSVP’ed to my pity-party.

Buy Lysa’s book here.

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